Resilience is having the flexibility and inner strength to adapt when life does not run according to plan, not the ability to simply ‘bounce back’ as some people believe. So, what is a resilience reservoir and how does it help?
Simply put, the fuller your resilience reservoir the more inner resources you will have to support you in challenging times. It can be the difference between being able to take on the world, or fighting an uphill battle to achieve the simplest of tasks. I recommend that my clients regularly monitor their resilience levels and keep them topped up.
Resilience is a resource that we all need to nurture, grow and maintain. We cannot simply expect it to hold us up when we face challenges along the way. We can all only ‘bounce back’ so many times before our resilience reservoir is depleted and life becomes overwhelming.
Here are my top tips for how to build and maintain your resilience reservoir:
Look after yourself
Sleep well, Eat well, Be kind to yourself.
Spend time outside or exercising
Both being in nature and exercise will boost your mood and increase your fitness.
Communicate: with your friends, loved ones, colleagues
Reaching out to others and explaining how you are feeling before things get too hard is essential for wellbeing.
Take a bird’s eye view of the situation
Stepping back and looking objectively look at the bigger picture can help put everything into perspective.
Let it go
Are you worrying about issues you can’t control? Use your energy positively for what you can change and don’t stress about what you can’t.
Taking the time to plan what needs to happen can reduce pressure and give you clear way forward.
Get stuff done
We can all take pride in achieving, even those annoying tasks that we’d rather put off forever. Remind yourself of what you have achieved, rather than just worrying about what is left to do.
Do something that is just for you every day
This could be reading a book you love, making time for a hobby, seeing friends, cooking a delicious meal, taking a walk, simply having a cup of your favourite tea. The important thing is that it nourishes you and you feel happier and more centred afterwards.
Keeping your resilience reservoir topped up is no guarantee that life will be plain sailing, but it does mean that you will be able to cope better and adapt more easily when things don’t go to plan.
I'm a Personal Coach who loves finding out about what makes people tick and helping them to make the changes necessary to get to where they want to go.